It’s been a few years now since I began my pursuit of happiness. During this quest, I have come across so many quotes and sayings that try to guide one on what happiness is or how one can get it.
But none of them showed me how to work on achieving it. Because at the end of the day, as any other pursuits in life, happiness is also a quest which you have to work on attaining. The only difference is that happiness is not a one-time achievement, once you experience it, the feeling is so ecstatic that you want it to linger forever.
So, I stopped making excuses and started taking action.
Self-development was the first stop. It gave me a sense of high every time I reached a goal and passed a target. But I soon realized that the feeling was temporary, and soon I had to work on another goal to get the happy sensation again.
The second stop was to work on my physical health by exercising and having nourishing and balanced food. Soon I started feeling good about my external appearance and hearing compliments on how well I looked. But still, I would go through times when I felt low and down mentally.
This is when the third stop showed up on the horizon. I realized that not only physical health was important, so was my mental condition and how I dealt with the day to day issues and my perspective on life. This is when meditation and yoga were introduced to me as the workout for my mental well-being and exercise for my thoughts. Slowly my perspective on life changed and I started to learn how to deal with my ups and downs and, by changing myself, my relationships with the people around me started changing for the better.
And last but not least, it wasn’t until I joined a non-profit organization and recognized that every time I was in an environment of giving and serving others’ needs with love that I came out with a high level of happy, self-satisfied internal feeling that would last for days. The more I did the serving and sharing, the longer the happy feelings would last. And it was then that I comprehended the meaning of the saying I heard all the time:
“it’s not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving.”Mother Teresa
Therefore, when I looked at happiness in a holistic way, it turned out to be an amalgamation of happy hormones that have to come together to produce that sense of feeling of happiness which we are all pursuing to reach and hold on to in life.
But the ultimate goal is not to just achieve it, but once you have realized it and came to know the formula, to share it and bring it onto others. Now the following make sense everytime I come across them:
“You have two hands. One to help yourself, the second to help others.” Quotediary.me
“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” Pablo Picasso
“When you learn, teach. When you get, give.” Maya Angelou
So, here I share with all of you my formula for pursuing happiness as modeled below: